Divorce: Why it might be for you + how to talk to your kids about it

Divorce doesn’t mess up kids.  Yup, you read right, divorce isn’t going to ruin your kids.  However, unexplained tension and conflict, that always feels unsafe for kids. And here’s the thing, in so many families, divorce is actually a moment of relief for kids. I know it was for me… because it means that you’re no longer in a home that is filled with all of that tension, or yelling, or conflict. So as we unpack this topic, please remember that.

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What you can do if things are feeling less than in the bedroom...

Sex in itself is such a simple concept. Yet, somehow, it can become very complicated.

Perhaps you just don’t enjoy it anymore? Maybe you’ve never had an orgasm?  Maybe you can’t switch that head of yours off and really be in the moment? Perhaps you’re not attracted to your partner sexually anymore? Or maybe, there’s just no desire there, despite you really wanting there to be? The issues with sex can be limitless. If this is you, read on dear reader.

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How trauma corrupts our brain + body: The real score

Trauma is ubiquitous in our society. It is estimated that 75% of Australians will experience a potentially traumatic event in their lifetime. That 1 in 4 Australian women will experience violence by an intimate partner, and that 1 in 5 women will experience sexual violence. It’s estimated that up to two thirds of young people have been exposed to at least one traumatic event by the time they turn 16! And that 1 in 8 Australian’s have experienced child abuse. 

These statistics are alarming and what many of us don’t realise is that these experiences leave traces on our biology and identity, with devastating social consequences. In fact, the Center for Disease Control and Prevention calculate that childhood trauma is our single largest public health issue—more costly than cancer or heart disease—and one that is largely preventable by early prevention and intervention. So what is trauma? And what is its true cost?

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